BECOMING “SELF-CENTERED”
“A woman who loves herself, knows herself, and accepts herself in her entirety is intoxicating. A woman who embodies her worth and value because she is a creation of the Divine is a woman unlike any other. We were all created in this image. It is now the time to step into this energy and release all the unhelpful beliefs and patterns holding us back from becoming the fullest versions of ourselves.”
Elizabeth Marth Tarara
Founder & CEO of Sacred Freedom
I don’t know if it is appropriate to quote oneself in one’s writing; however…
As I was looking for quotes from women I admire on self-love and worth, nothing quite felt like what I wanted to convey. Then, the Holy Spirit created precisely what I sought through me. I love it when that happens.
However, for me to tap into this Divine creative power, I must create the time, space, and atmosphere for the creative process to flow through me. A few years back, I realized I could be highly creative and empowered in my writing, vlogs, or podcasts. It also became evident that my well was dry when I didn’t create what I needed to receive Divine inspiration.
Over the last few years, while growing my business, I have had to learn to balance being a mom, a wife, and a homemaker, as well as a coach, a teacher, a writer, a podcaster, a speaker, and a business owner. I know that I am not alone in this tender space. I have met hundreds of women who experience this same energetic tug-of-war.
For many women, most of our lives have heard that it is Godly or at least looked upon as favorable for us to put others before ourselves. At camp, I was taught “God first, others second, and yourself third.”
It’s not that any of this is terrible guidance. It just is incomplete.
In scripture, Jesus says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and love your neighbors as you love yourself.”
See, God knows that humans can't give what we don’t have- not in a sustainable way, at least. To be the women we desire to be, it is essential to fill our cups first before we can authentically and in a loving way fill the cups of others. And it is necessary to begin filling our cups by turning to Spirit, or whatever your Source may be.
When we start with Divine Connection and receive what we need and want from that energy, we are more equipped to listen to our hearts and give ourselves the love, attention, and time we desire for our own Soul’s purpose. After this, those around us get the best version of ourselves.
This sounds like an idyllic way to live, right?
(…or rather, completely unrealistic…?)
Especially if you have young children, are taking care of aging parents and all that goes along with that, or are running a company, or are a single parent, or, or, or….
the list is ENDLESS.
As we fight our limitations, let’s consider the alternatives…
When women put themselves LAST, when they self-abandon for the sake of being good, appreciated, or validated day after day, month after month, year after year- DISEASE sets in.
Do we honestly think that it is a coincidence that breast cancer and ovarian cancer are rampant?
Why affairs and divorces are at an all-time high?
Why is teen suicide up, as well as self-harm and drug use?
Do not get me wrong; this is not about a moral high ground. That just isn’t me. What I am saying is this…
WOMEN ARE DESPERATE…
Tired and Overworked
Feeling Underappreciated
Unseen and Unheard
…BECAUSE WE’RE NOT LISTENING TO OURSELVES.
We are abandoning the very soul that will guide us to feeling good and healthy.
I am the first to be transparent and say this is not the way I lived when my children were young when I was caring for my dad with dementia, my grandmother who was living with us, or my mom when she was dying of ALS. It is not how I lived for most of my marriage or life. And to be honest, a lot of my life has been an emotional train wreck. Sometimes, I was so depleted I didn’t think I could go on.
And then I learned a different way.
While my life looks very different now that my children are much more self-sufficient, my aging family has now passed on, and I am figuring out what this next phase of life looks like for us; my life is far from issue-free.
I know now that to be the woman I know I am and live the life I was created for.
I HAVE to be God-centered and then self-centered to be other-focused.
Where in your life are you self-abandoning?
Is it in your personal care, your relationships, your parenting, your health, your finances, your work, your desires, your sex life, your personal expression?
What is one way that you can choose differently in this area? That you can choose YOU?
THIS IS THE FIRST STEP.
While it may not be easy for some, it is necessary to live the life you were created for, to be the woman you already are but may not know yet.
Say YES to what your Divine Soul is calling you towards.
Our desires are nothing to be afraid or ashamed of.
They are healthy Divine guideposts toward what Spirit has for us.
So…
Will you answer the call?
The journey out of self-abandonment can be confusing, disorienting, and hard to navigate.
But if you’re ready for a sneak peek into what a personalized journey of support, education, and life-changing tools could look like, especially for YOU, let’s connect with a FREE DISCOVERY CALL today!