RELATIONSHIPS & CREATING OUR OWN EXPERIENCES
“It’s so great we can get together! It’s been so long!
How has everything been going?
Can you believe you now have a high schooler?!”
This was a recent greeting from one of my closest friends.
We have been friends since 5th grade and have shared in the good, the bad, and the ugly. It had been months since we had seen each other, and we had the great pleasure of meeting at the local pool while our kids swam, where we could catch up.
An hour before that, I had just finished one of my videos for social media on how we show up in relationships (meaning what type of energy we are in, how we think and act, etc.) and the effect this has on the other person and our own experience.
This was a topic close to my heart for two reasons:
1 - it is the basis of all my work- my spiritual and energetic work within my programs and my work in Conscious Uncoupling and Calling in “The One.”
2 - the previous month of May had been an opportunity for me to grow in how I showed up in almost all of my relationships.
I believe
that when we are about to uplevel or align with a higher version of our Soul Self, we are given opportunities to step into what we have been learning, like being allowed to put our learning into practice.
So, as I have been going along, meditating, practicing energetics, praying, and reading—all of my practices that have become a daily, necessary part of my life as I continue to walk my own transformational journey—
wouldn’t you know that Spirit decided May was a PERFECT time for my own growth opportunity. It is a great time to put into practice all I have been studying and learning.
This is the part where I take a deep breath.
Honestly, the last two weeks in April and the first two parts of May were the most challenging weeks I have had in a year.
In fact, the last time I felt so challenged was this time the previous year.
Now, I would like to say that because of the spiritual and emotional growth work that I immerse myself in daily, both professionally and personally, I handled each of these situations that came my way with complete trust in God, which allowed me to show up as the best version of myself…
that I flowed with ease and a deep, inner knowing through it all.
But...
That was not exactly how it looked.
I believe that how we show up for ourselves is how we show up for others.
This is why I strongly believe that loving ourselves, like truly having a deep love and compassion for ourselves, is of utmost importance.
I also believe that the energy that we live from—meaning the thoughts we think, the emotions we feel, and then allow ourselves to focus on, as well as the actions we take—creates the type of experiences we have in all areas of our lives.
Well, this belief was absolutely put to the “test,” so to speak.
And the truth is, some of the experiences I created—meaning my responses and energy (my thoughts, emotions, and actions) to my circumstances—felt good. I felt I handled the challenges before me in a way that aligned with my higher Soul Self.
This was the piece I shared with my friend.
Even though I know that I have to look at my part in every circumstance and experience, I didn’t always do that. Initially, it was definitely easier for me to blame others for the situations that arose. I didn’t want to see my part.
I shared that while my Higher Self lives from a place of forgiveness and seeing things from different perspectives, seeing the best in others and taking responsibility for what is mine- including the energy I am projecting out that affects my circumstances, I let my ego self get the best of me at times. Simply put…
I didn’t always show up as the woman that I truly am in my heart.
After weeks of processing everything that happened, I know it’s okay.
As I am still evolving, growing, and learning, I will hit sharp and flat notes. This was an opportunity to reflect and see where I still desire to grow, to transform the parts of me that no longer feel aligned. While I won’t be rushing to have those experiences again, I am grateful for the learning and growth that came from them.
I’ll leave you with these two action steps...
1. GROW YOUR AWARENESS.
You know how you are in a relationship or in a circumstance where you want to look different.
See what part you are contributing to that isn’t working by asking…
Is it your energy?
Is it your communication style?
Is it your lack of boundaries?
2. SEEk NEED-INFORMED CHANGE.
Then, ask yourself…
What do you need?
What do you want to change?
What is your part in that change that you can do for yourself?
What can you ask for from the other person?ness is the first step in creating healthy relationships with ynd others.
And remember…
Awareness
is the first step in creating healthy relationships with yourself and others.
It truly is key to building emotional growth.
Ready to discover more about implementing the “Releasing the Relationship” method in your own life?